Whatever it takes to find the real you, don’t be daunted if the rest of the world looks on in shock.” Stephen Richards, author

We all like to think that we know everything about ourselves. In reality, the chances are that it’s not as much as you think. Many personal trainers are living a life of illusion because they are happy to settle for less, instead of maximising their true potential.

On the other hand, A Fit Man knows exactly what he wants: he turns his hopes and desires into action and results. The key is that he is able to think with clarity all of the time. His clear mind enables him to approach every situation with 100% confidence.

In my experience, most personal trainers are unable to set goals for themselves, despite advocating this approach for their clients. Others will blindly follow the SMART method without achieving the results they actually desire. Can you honestly say that your clients have ever achieved life-changing results by using the SMART method?

More importantly, have you?

This is not going to be an article about goal-setting. Instead, I’m going to show you the barriers that keep you from finding yourself. I’ll also show you how you can remove those barriers and, if you so choose, become a Fit Man.

What Gets In The Way Of You Finding Yourself?

Many personal trainers tell themselves that they are going to set clear goals for the days, weeks and months ahead. However, people often let their fears get in the way of doing this effectively.

Lots of personal trainers do not have a clear idea of what they want out of life. They are unsure about relationships, money, business and many other important areas.

Ingrained patterns of behaviour are another barrier that prevents you from truly getting to know yourself. Your behaviour may be influenced by your family, friends, or the society around you.

For example, you might have grown up in an environment where people dealt with emotional or physical problems through a combination of drink and drugs. Or, you might live with people who turn to comfort eating in times of stress.

You may be influenced to do the same in a bad situation, rather than thinking with near 100% clarity (like a Fit Man does). Under stress, the Fit Man is able to use adversity as a motivational tool. Are you ready to live the life that you want? Here’s how a Fit Man finds out who he really is.

Forget About Goal Setting, Initially

The first thing that you need to do is forget about goal-setting, at least at first. This is a flawed system which can sometimes create more problems than it solves.

Too many trainers rush into this without having a clear idea of what they want. The goals that you have always had in the back of your mind will have altered beyond all recognition by the time you have found out who you really are.

Goal setting without discovering your true identity is only going to lead to disappointment further down the line. If you have always measured yourself by the goals that you set, then now is the perfect time to reverse that process.

Challenge Your Assumptions

Too often, we make assumptions that cause us to think or act in a negative way. One of your desires might be buy a sports car in the future, with the money that you earn as a successful personal trainer.

There is nothing fundamentally wrong with this, but why do you want a sports car? You might think that this is the only way that you are going to attract the woman of your dreams. Or you might think that your friends will judge you for having a less desirable car. Both of these are negative reasons for owning a Ferrari or a Lamborghini, so reconsider your motivation.

A Fit Man is able to constantly challenge himself over why he thinks or acts in a certain way. This allows him to strip away all of the unnecessary assumptions in order to improve every aspect of his life.

Define The Person Who You Want To Become

Too many people define themselves by the goals that they have set. This is a mistake, because these goals might not have been suitable for you in the first place. It is important that you define the person that you want to become.

Some of you will be asking how this is possible. You need to hone in on your wants and desires in every aspect of your life, from relationships to the way that you run your business.

This is not an easy process, and it may take you some time to come up with answers that you are truly satisfied with. Once you have the answers, you will feel a sense of clarity.

Realize That This Is An Ongoing Process

You need to realize that this is an ongoing process, because who you are changes over time. Your wants and needs as a single nineteen year-old who is just starting their career will be markedly different from your wants and needs as a middle-aged man with a family and twenty years of experience in the fitness industry.

If you try to ignore this fact, then you will be constantly looking back into your past instead of moving forward. The Fit Man is able to come to terms with his past. He can use what he has learnt and experienced over the years in order to mould his future.

As he gets older, the Fit Man is able to adapt by redefining the person that he is due to the changing circumstances in his life. He is also able to challenge his assumptions without slipping into complacency.

If you follow the advice in this article, you give yourself the best chance of becoming A Fit Man. Send me a private email once you’ve done this; it’ll show me you are truly dedicated to creating a life and business you love.

Once I receive your email, I can show you how to set goals that keep you fit and inspire you to change the quality other lives around you, to protect and provide what’s necessary for you and your current (or future) family, and to attract an abundance which enables you to live and give at a level you want: no limits, living life on your own terms, creating ultimate freedom.

Let’s chat. I’ll keep an eye out for your email.

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  1. Joe Hanney
    Joe Hanney says:

    Hey Everyone!

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